Big Feel
Relationship & Intimacy Education
Where big feelings meet healthy relationshipsPersonal Coaching, Relationship & Intimacy Specialists
for Individuals, Couples, Mono, Poly, Straight, Queer, and BeyondHigh-achieving professional? Recovering from divorce? In a new relationship?
You take math classes and English classes, but no one teaches you how to love well.So most of us stumble through relationships, repeating patterns we don’t fully understand, wondering why connection feels harder than it should.At Big Feel Coaching, we teach the skills no one ever handed you—how to communicate clearly, handle conflict without destruction, and build intimacy that actually lasts.Not just to have a relationship.
But to thrive in one.
Hi, I’m John (they/them).I’ve spent my adult life learning how to navigate the complexity of connection—the joy, the rupture, the vulnerability it takes to let someone really see you.I help individuals and couples build healthier communication, deeper intimacy, and relationships that don’t just look good from the outside, but actually feel good on the inside.I’m a certified Gottman Leader, grounded in relationship research, and a certified sex therapy practitioner. My goal is to provide a safe space where you can access your emotional depth, find your authentic voice, and show up with courage.We’ll laugh. We’ll get honest. We’ll make some goals and figure out how to get there together.
Few investments shape your life more than your relationships.→ Individuals ($120/session)
Understand your relationship patterns, strengthen communication, and approach dating with clarity and confidence.→ Couples ($175/session)
Rebuild trust, improve conflict skills, and deepen intimacy using research-backed Gottman Method tools.→ Polyamorous & Non-Traditional Relationships ($175/session)
Navigate boundaries, communication, and complex dynamics with research-informed tools and affirming support.→ Intimacy & Sexual Wellness
Every session includes space to address desire, communication, a
nd sexual health so your relationship works emotionally and physically.A limited number of sliding scale spots are available for clients experiencing financial hardship. Please inquire if cost is a barrier.
→ Singles Workshops
Build relationship readiness with Lessons in Love, a practical, engaging workshop focused on emotional skills that set you up for healthy partnership.
Upcoming Available Relationship Seminars
Tuesday Spring Virtual Relationship Circle (6 weeks):
April 21, 28; May 12, 19, 26; June 9; 7pm-8:30pmWednesday Spring Virtual Relationship Circle (6 weeks):
April 22, 29; May 6, 20, 27; June 10; 7pm-8:30pmMay 23, 2026, 9am-4pm: One-Day Intensive, Lawrence, KSFour-week Connection Series, Lawrence, KS:
May 24, June 7, June 14, June 28; 2pm-4pm each week$299 per seminar
$249 Early Bird Special (two weeks or more before start date)Bring a friend! $275 each when you book together,
or $225 each Early Bird Special
Future Saturday In-person One-Day Intensives
May 23, 2026: Lawrence, KS
June 13, 2026: Topeka, KS
June 20, 2026: Overland Park, KS
June 27, 2026: Columbia, MO
July 18, 2026: Wichita, KS
July 25, 2026: Omaha, NE
Aug. 1, 2026: Kansas City, MO
Aug. 15, 2026: Springfield, MO
Sept. 5, 2026: Des Moines, IA
Sept. 12, 2026: Omaha, NE
Sept. 19, 2026: Overland Park, KS
Future Sunday In person Connection Series: 2 hours, 4 weeks
Lawrence, KS:
May 24, June 7, June 14, June 28Overland Park, KS:
July 5, July 12, July 19, July 26Lawrence, KS:
Aug. 2, Aug. 9, Aug. 16, Aug. 23Kansas City, MO:
Aug. 30, Sept. 6, Sept. 13, Sept. 20
Future Tuesday Night Virtual Relationship Circle (6 weeks),
7pm-8:30pm
Tuesday Spring: April 21, 28; May 12, 19, 26; June 9Tuesday Early Summer: June 23, 30; July 7, 14, 21, 28Tuesday Late Summer: Aug. 4, 11, 18, 25; Sept. 1, 8
Future Wednesday Night Virtual Relationship Circle (6 weeks),
7pm-8:30pm
Wednesday Spring: April 22, 29; May 6, 20, 27; June 10Wednesday Early Summer: June 24, July 1, 8, 15, 22; Aug. 5Wednesday Late Summer: Aug. 12, 19, 26; Sept. 2, 9, 16
Lessons in Love Singles WorkshopDuration: 7.5 hours
Single and looking to build a happy, lasting partnership? Learn essential skills to make your next relationship a successful one with this singles workshop. Based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this workshop has adapted the proven Seven Principles to help singles learn the key to building successful romantic relationships.This workshop is for single individuals looking to build a happy, healthy romantic relationship. Individuals who are single or in various stages of dating will learn how to apply the Seven Principles to romantic connections, gaining essential skills to build their best relationship yet to come.Course Content Level: Introductory/BeginnerLearn everything you need to make your next romantic connection a lasting one. Improve your communication skills, learn how to effectively manage conflict, and gain essential tools to approach dating and relationship-building. Using renowned Gottman concepts proven to make relationships happy and successful, you will discover how to set the foundation for a healthy lifelong partnership.In this singles workshop, you will learn…The happy couples secret weapon.
How to become a better listener and communicator.
The phases of relationships, true love, and how to approach dating.
How to express your emotions, needs, goals, and dreams.
Improved conflict management and how to move past repeat arguments.
Ways to increase fondness and admiration in your relationship.
How to apply the Seven Principles to dating and romantic partnerships.AgendaResearch and Principle 1: Love Maps
Principle 2: Nurture Fondness
Principle 3: Turning Towards
Principle 4: Accepting Influence
Principle 5: Learn to Solve your Solvable Problems
Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock
Principle 7: Shared Meaning, Rituals of Connection and Life Goals
Multiple Breakout rooms to practice concepts
Multiple Breaks
Learning Objectives1. Recognize and build skills to encourage individuals to get to know your partner in a deep, profound way.
2. Describe qualities and interventions to build friendship and trust.
3. Demonstrate ways to recognize and respond to bids for emotional connection and accepting influence.
4. Give examples of understanding and working with both solvable and more difficult problems.
5. Explain getting through gridlocked conflict as a team.
6. Define creating a special “Story of Us.”
7. Give examples of maintaining relationship gains.You will receive a 123 page Lessons In Love Guide For SinglesThis guide accompanies the Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles Workshop. It provides singles with interactive step-by-step exercises for each stage of the workshop.
This Singles Guide will help individuals learn and use The Gottman Institute’s research-based exercises and methods to improve your relationships.
This Guide offers each person their own private space to work through interactive exercises and thoughtfully reflect on each principle as it applies to their past, present, and future relationships.